In this 3Four3.com podcast, John Pranjic describes the importance of setting a culture for your team.
He describes an important first moment with the team (bold mine):
It’s the moment when you meet with your team for the first time. It’s your first opportunity to establish a proper team culture. It’s when you set the tone for the work that you will do together. And it’s a moment that becomes a reference point for you to come back to whenever necessary.
Having that reference point is great advice. But, what should you reference?
Quoting Brian Kleiban, a successful 3Four3 youth coach:
Brian introduced the players part of the deal. The two things that he says are non-negotiable. Two things that only they can control.
Players don’t control the quality of the field. They can’t control the actions of their teammates. They can’t control their opponents.
The only thing players have total control over are themselves. More specifically, players control their own level of focus and work ethic.
Just like the players cannot control the quality of the field – the coach cannot control the amount of effort a player puts into training. Only the player can.
This is an important reference point to set with parents, too.
Some parents work hard to find ‘great’ and motivating coaches, but fail to encourage their kids to put in the effort.
They think the coach will mold their child into a star, not realizing that how much effort the kid puts in is the biggest factor in that.
Coaches, like schoolteachers, can only do so much. The best teachers have had their share of C and D students. The best coaches have also had their share of flame-outs.
I also recommend setting the following reference points with parents:
- Questions about your child’s position and play time should sound like, “What does my child need to do to earn more play time/the chance to play a different position?”
- If you’d like to discuss subjects not related to your child — e.g. other players, what we work on at practice, team strategy — let’s first discuss how much effort your child puts in on and off the field.
For every conversation about a child’s effort, I’ve had 20 on other topics where more could have been accomplished discussing their child’s effort.
These reference points will help keep players, parents and coaches focused on the number one factor that will help the players — their own effort and work ethic.